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8:29 PM: She sounds like she’s going into shock, and it’s crowded so no one is seeing her. If you have prayers, any religion, please pray them now.


7:22 AM, NOV. 27: Here’s where we are this morning. It took until 11 PM for the hospital to see her. Something is wrong–some sort of post-surgical complication–but they don’t know what. At 4 AM they gave her morphine and sent her home for a few hours of sleep, but she’s to be back in there this morning. The good news I’ve had is that her temperature, which had dropped from normal to 96.5 over the course of about an hour right before she called me at 8:10 PM, stabilized, and her blood pressure is within normal limits (info that I didn’t have until 11 PM).

The one possibility that my daughter could tell me they’d mentioned was an abcess–she’s not medical-tech oriented, and she was in bad pain, and her stress level was high. People in those situations don’t catch medical terminology and jargon thrown at them at high speed, so there are other possibilities, but she doesn’t know what they are.

At this point, I’m waiting for a call from her to let me know what’s going on.

Thank you for prayers, good thoughts, candles, anything you’ve got. I’m deeply grateful.


1:00 PM, NOV. 27: Not answering her cell phone, not answering her messages. Still waiting to hear something.


1:58 PM, NOV, 27: Finally heard from her. She’s been readmitted. Abdominal pain, vomiting, chills. They don’t know what’s wrong. They’re going to run tests.

Thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement. I don’t do religion, but I know prayer and focused thought work, and I’m grateful for every one of you holding her in your thoughts.


5:55 PM, NOV 27: She’s having “something radioactive with injected dye” done in radiology. Tony–her guy–didn’t get the specific name of the procedure, and I’m not up to guessing. This hospital she’s in seems so far to be pretty short on patient teaching and pretty long on nurses eating hamburgers at the nurses’ station. No idea when she’ll be out (but this, sadly, is Standard Operating Procedure—tests take forever). Still no clue what’s wrong, but maybe after they have have her back from this.

I’m trying not to remember all the things I’ve seen go wrong with radioactive dye and patients.


9:05 PM, NOV 27:Still waiting to hear anything.


8:00 PM, NOV 28:Things are kind of up in the air. They’ve found the problem, after a bunch of really nasty tests; the surgeon didn’t get everything closed off the first time in, and her liver is leaking bile into her abdominal cavity. She’s going to wait a couple of days in the hospital to see if the leak closes off on its own. If it doesn’t, there’s an esophageal treatment that might fix it, and if that doesn’t work, more surgery. She’s had nothing but ice chips since she entered the ER, and will probably have nothing but ice chips until Friday.

But she hurts less, and there are a whole lot of worse things this could have been. Her very best outcome is that this problem will resolve itself between now and Friday, without any further need for anesthesia or invasive procedures or surgery.

I told her you folks were keeping her in your thoughts and praying for her, and she told me to thank you. Huge thanks from me, too, that you have made time in your lives for my kid. We’re both so grateful.

Another update when I know more.


11:44 AM, NOV 29: Just talked to her. She’s feeling much better, though very weak. She’s having much less pain, and she managed to sleep pretty well through the night. There’s a chance she’ll be able to have something besides ice chips today, and if she does all right with it, she could go home tomorrow.

Thank you so much for keeping her in your thoughts and prayers.


12:32 PM, NOV 29: Her doctor was just in, and she gets to go ahead with the food trial, to see how she does. If she doesn’t start leaking bile again, she’ll be out of there soon.


9:58 AM, NOV 30 She did well all through the night, kept the food down, didn’t go back to the horrible pain, and she gets to go home today.

Thank you so much for hanging with me through this, and for keeping her in your thoughts and prayers. This is the absolute best outcome we could have wanted, and it happened. It was wonderful to know that she was never alone, that there were, throughout the day, other people who cared about her and what happened to her. Thank you so much, from both of us.

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My daughter is in the ER right now — 58 Comments

  1. OMG. I’ve been so busy with work this week, I’ve been behind on reading blogs… And this happens. I’m so sorry I just heard about this now. Please keep us up to date, Holly. Your daughter is in my prayers.


  2. The best of my good wishes are with your daughter and you right now. I hope your daughter does well with the food and recovery. I’ve been knocking on wood for her every chance I think of it, while saying my non-denominational version of a prayer.

  3. I am so glad that things are starting to look up, Holly. I will still keep sending healing vibes until you tell us all is well.

    I hope all goes well for your daughter with the food trial.

  4. I have been carefully following this post since you started it, checking back several times each day and even getting up at 2 AM the first day to see whether there were any new updates. You KNOW my thoughts are always with you and yours, but they are especially focused on “the film school kid”, right now!

    Send her my hugs!


  5. Thank you, all of you, for prayers and good thoughts and support through this. Thank you also for the offer of a fund to get me down there. I am so moved by your generosity and kindness, but I won’t have to have a fund.

    If surgery does prove necessary, my husband has already said he’ll say “The hell with the store” and we’ll drive down. He’s the manager, so doing this would be a big deal, which is why we haven’t done it yet. Once there, we can sleep at his folks’ house, so if she doesn’t do well with food, we’ll start making plans. We were making arrangements to drive down when things went south so badly on the 26th, but cancelled them when we found out her vital signs were stable.

  6. Glad to hear the good update. She, you, and your family will remain in my prayers.

    (And if a fund to fly you to your daughter gets started, I want to donate.)

  7. I’ll be praying that she manages to heal on her own, and that more surgery is not necessary. (Will also be asking some church friends to add her/you to the prayer list.) I’m glad that they know what it is!

  8. It’s relief to know what it is that causes the problems and that doctors are working on it. Still thinking of you two and sending positive thoughts. Will do so as long as it’s needed. Strength to you both.

  9. One of those blunt questions I tend to pose and all.

    Holly, how much would it cost to get you to your daughter?

    Still thinking of you and her.

  10. Very sorry to hear what your going through Holly. I myself had a Psoas abscess earlier this year, it was scarey at the time. Abscess plays havoc with your temperature.

    My thoughts are with you both. Mark.

  11. God, Holly, this is awful. I had some ugly “surprises” with close relatives last summer–actually the whole thing started the previous September–and I hate thinking of what you and your family are going through. Good luck, and I wish I could help. My wife and I, both writers whom you’ve helped immensely, are wishing you and your daughter well.

  12. A couple of years ago, I had emergency gall bladder surgery. I can remember that stupid gas they use to inflate your stomach during surgery caused me to have post-surgical abdominal pain and nausea. I’m praying that’s all this is and your daughter will be okay.

  13. If we had a second vehicle, I’d drive down and get you, if nothing else so that you could Be There. Not knowing is the worst, but it’ll be okay. Hang in there. {{hugg}}

  14. Oh lord, no, every Mom’s nightmare. My prayers go out to you and her. I’ll be checking this blog and hoping to see good news on the diagnosis and fixing-it fronts soon.

    Many hugs from Michigan.

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