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And now I’m fifty-five. Life, health, and…yes, Destiny — 94 Comments

    • My surgeon is superb. Dr. Eric Fox—I highly recommend him.

      Of course, he did tell me that if we have to do this again, I’m going to have to have anesthesia and be in a hospital, and its going to make the previous pain feel like a walk in the park by comparison.

      So I’m really hoping we never have to do this again.

  1. Holly, I’m delighted to hear the surgery is over and tissue margins were clear. Happy 55th birthday! I’ll admit most of the rest of your post went right over my head, but I did gather something about ‘fun’ and ‘pain’ and speaking as one who lives with chronic pain most of the time I can say you’re onto something. The two concepts don’t seem to marry well, yet if you CAN push yourself into a mindset of fun and games, beyond mere relaxation states, the pain miraculously reduces. I’m trying hard to convince people of this fact, but maybe you can get the message across through your fiction and how a character approaches wounds or something. Just a thought. Keep thriving! Best wishes.

  2. Happy birthday, and I hope you keep feeling much better soon. Hope the news on the biopsy is all good. Fun is always a good thing. I can completely understand being sidelined, as I have pneumonia and require way too much down time. Maybe I will have to try Destiny.


  3. Welcome back, good health is always good. I’d probably get a game console soon to check that game out, it will help me to get more inspired for an idea in my writing, not be distracted, but be inspired.

  4. I’m really glad to hear the surgery went well and that you were able to have some fun in the process. I hope all the projects you listed in your email go as smoothly as possible.

  5. Congrats on the results, hope it stays that way.

    Yeah a video game, especially a multiplayer one is a greta distraction when health issues loom. Them the social gets to be a distraction from RL. Watch out for that. But smack those villains!

  6. Welcome back Holly! I am so grateful to Heavenly Father that you are doing better. I’m also glad you have a constructive if violent means to relieving a bit of the pain. :-). May God bless you forever.

  7. So glad to hear you’re doing well, and that you enjoyed your time off! Destiny sounds like a lot of fun. If only I had a console and the time 😛 Happy to have you back, Holly.

  8. Wow, so glad you are doing better. I had a similar thing with a pre melanoma by my ear, had 2 surgeries to get clean edges. But I am 18 years out and still ok. Happy 55 and enjoy the new Xbox, I don’t play. I used to play vicariously through my son. We completed many a campaign together, him driving and me looking over his shoulder.

  9. SO relieved to hear from you! And so glad the biopsy results were clean and that you had a great birthday.

    While I don’t see myself ever playing Destiny, I know what it’s like to get lost in a game, having once spent three weeks battling the Curse of Monkey Island (more my speed: Plus the glass-bottomed boat and the inane pirate curses were a hoot.)

    Really looking forward to the new site going live (and the shop being active again).


  10. I understand the playing games while being forced to recuperate! I’ve been playing Diablo 3 while going through the junk I’m dealing with. It’s perfect for me because I can pause anytime I want and I can walk away whenever. I would rather play World of Warcraft but it’s too easy to get sucked in for hours at a time. I’m glad you’re doing better and I hope you don’t have to go through this stuff again!

  11. Happy birthday! And glad to have you back! 😀 You sound full of energy – I hope that is true and holds through the harrowing time of the move!

  12. Dear Holly,
    It’s great to hear your good news and the joy you have in the Xbox game. Joy helps heal us all. May the Lord Who made your tongue and loves you more than any fiction writer could ever imagine, heal you quickly and in ways that let you know it was Him! He is our real destiny and being on His team is the biggest adventure in the universe! Thanks for all your help in my writing adventures.

  13. Glad that your biopsy results went well. You know how good surgeons are at what they do, and they were honest with you on what you knew re cells. Have fun and keep being you. We love you dear 😀

  14. Dear Holly, happy birthday! May your long happy life be blessed with strong health, abundance, love, joy!!! And many good friends and students of your school. I am happy to hear you are well now, and am so sorry about the second surgery. May you stay healthy ever since!!!

    Many hugs,
    Victoria and Lewis (UAE)

  15. Excellent news on the biopsy results.

    On-line games of one form or another have kept me (relatively) sane and functional at one time or another over my 57 years. Really should make some time for a MoltenWoW session myself, soon (Horde or Alliance, I hunt!)

  16. I quit Destiny for the very same reason – too much slog, not enough fun. Your review makes me want to D/L The Taken King and get back into the game.

    Also, as an FYI to your web developer, in Chrome, the gray box below covers the ‘Post Comment’ button. Had to post this comment from IE *shudders*.

  17. Holly! So good to have you back and so glad to hear that everything (biopsy results, site, gaming) is going well. From one female gamer to another, that game sounds *awesome*. Might have to check that out post-exams… 😛
    Will write at more length once the exams are over but you asked for comments, so, short term, here you go. You rock! 🙂

  18. I’m glad you are improving – not just your game, that is. 😉 As someone who has chronic pain, I totally get how immersing oneself in a game is a good distractor – and a useful pain management tool. (Though my usual go-to games are Minecraft and Age of Mythology, on the computer.)

    My your margins always be clear!

  19. Holly, glad to hear you’re in recovery mode with a good doctor’s report.

    Oh, and good luck with that Iron Banner armor! 🙂

  20. I am really glad you had good news on the biopsy results.
    I don’t play video games (and not so much because I wouldn’t like to blow up things but just because I suck at it every time I try), so that part of the post went right over my head but glad you’re having some fun and sound like you are feeling a little more like yourself again. I sincerely hoop the good news will keep on coming for you.

  21. Holly, you are a woman after my own heart. I discovered gaming after I retired and love it. I’m a PC MMO player and love the challenges and accomplishments. Interesting stats coming out of the gaming conferences – women are starting to outrun the men in numbers as well as competitive spirit.

  22. okay, i don’t play video games at all, and the majority of what you were taking about went right over my head…except the part about someone humping your character’s leg while you were playing. that was hilarious!

    seriously, i wish you all the best with your health. just reading how much you have on your plate really put things in perspective for me when it comes to working toward your goals. just do something everyday that’ll get you closer to fulfilling your dream(s) while still taking time out for yourself. i like that.

    get well soon, Holly. i’ll keep you in my thoughts and send you “healing” vibes.

  23. Glad the biopsy came back clear. Hope you are recovering nicely. I trust getting to kick-ass in some awesome video games helps alleviate the boredom usually involved in recovery. 🙂

  24. hi holly,
    I’m delighted to hear your good news. I’m working away on htryn and thoroughly enjoying it – I didn’t think it could be so much fun fixing something (put it this way it really couldn’t be worse)
    Holly I love what you do you really are an isspiration
    take care, be gentle with yourself Enjoy destiny

  25. Speaking as the ex-wife of an Army Sniper turned Gunsmith…I love shooting guns and blowing sh*t up. That said, I despise video games like Destiny because they’re such brain-numbing time-suckers(to me). LOL!

    But I’m very happy to hear you’re on the mend and feeling happy and that you had something to do during R&R that you absolutely love! That’s always good for the healing process, so keep it up! (And maybe you should blow up the leg-humping Titan the next time you see him…)

  26. Ah, yes. Nothing like a FPS to let go of a stress. I remember many a day when the only thing that prevented me from mass murder of my group was I’d have to hire lawyers, when I’d put Quake into God Mode and just splatter everything in sight (on site) for a couple of hours. Amazing how pseudo-“spree killing” can lower your stress. And people think video games are bad…. Anyway, glad to hear about your surgery. May this be the last you hear about bad health for a while. Keep well

  27. Dear Holly,

    I am so pleased to hear that you are feeling better. This is my first time writing back to you, but I have been subscribed for awhile now. I wanted to tell you thank you for all your hard work and help. You inspire me to keep going forward and I admire you very much.

    I have been on disability for about five and a half years now, and am working on changing that. I do have stories burning inside of me, and your tools are helping me pull them out. They will be part of my financial independence, and I will be sure to let you know when the first one rolls out in publishable form.

    Please keep the good stuff coming. I know I am not the only person you have had a positive influence on, and like you, I do believe that we need to send good energy out to counteract the negative. Take care, and I will be eagerly waiting for your next email.


  28. The news of clear margins is awesome. The news that you’re feeling more like yourself is spectacular!

    Unfortunately, I don’t play many video games. Largely because we don’t own a system. Largely because I would fall into the unavoidable time-suck and wouldn’t get anything else done ever. But Destiny looks super cool – I’m glad it’s been a happy distraction for you. 😀

  29. Holly, Happy Birthday!!! Don’t count them, you just celebrate them..LOL!!!

    I am very pleased to hear that the biopsy results are just what you wished that they would be. Great news there.

    I was not much for console games (Xbox, PS2,3,4, Nintendo, etc…) I much prefer the computer versions myself. Unfortunately, those are disappearing as more game publishers are doing only console games now.

    When you get ready for testing again, drop me a line and we can set up a date and time for that.


  30. I’m happy for you, Holly, for your biopsy results and your ne-found joy in Destiny. I will tell you that I can envy you that ability to game. I’ve tried for many years to be able to do it. Beyond-poor vision just won’t allow it for me and I tend to feel left out of that world. Okay, self-pity over. Play your heart out, girl. Create those new plots on the battefield and cling to victory. 😀

  31. Welcome back. And congratulations on the good health news. Sounds like a good doctor. I just turned 55 last week myself and am getting involved in ways to put all that great experience to work.

  32. I LOVE Destiny! I have a PS4 and XBoxOne version of it and it doesn’t get old at all. Hubby and I both have our campaigns and compete with one another.

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